What if I laugh when I shouldn't?
Friday, June 15, 2007
I've been thinking a bit about things that I will laugh at, then think about, and think that I shouldn't actually think it's funny.
Here's an example:
See, on the one hand, I actually laughed at this ("What the hell's a bedazzler?"). On the other hand, I'm fully aware that it plays on a shit-load of gay stereotypes.
To their credit (or not -- I'm just not sure about this one), they didn't use a kid who was, to my mind, absolutely 100% verifiably a FOF (part of my new candy line: "FOFs and DOTs" -- Fags of the Future and Dykes of Tomorrow).
My gut sense is that this is supposed to be a joke about cultural attitudes, rather than gays themselves, but I found myself hesitating when thinking about posting a link to some of my straight friends. I would assume that they would follow my lead in terms of thinking it was funny if I said something like: "Watch this! Funny!" -- but that seems unfair to me somehow.
I received a link to that video from a dyke friend. She thought it was funny, and told me so when she forwarded the link. I laughed, too.
But now, I'm wondering if I was laughing in connection with my friend (whose sense of humor I completely enjoy), or because the video was actually funny.
This plays out in terms of what I call my "wit-demons" -- sometimes I'll post a comment just to "be funny".
I like funny.
I think humor can be an incredible tool for changing consciousness.
I notice though, these subtle halts when I'm about to email a certain link . . . . tiny little "uh-ohs" that tell me that I should probably look again.
A friend once told me that he thought that Joni's lyric "laughing and crying, it's all the same release" was literally true, and that most humor was centered around some kind of painful truth -- that something literally could not be funny unless it held that seed of truth -- and that what determined our response to the painful truth of the "joke" was whether we are connecting to that truth (which results in crying -- "Yes, that's true -- and that's me! Ouch!") -- or are disconnecting from that truth (laughing "Yes, that's true -- and thank god I'm not like that! Ha Ha!")
I do not, by any means, have this figured out. I just noticed it, and wanted to post today, so this is what I'm posting today.
What makes you laugh? Do you know why it makes you laugh?
Posted byPortlyDyke at 9:22 PM