tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post2682976669979693660..comments2023-04-28T07:38:34.667-07:00Comments on Teh Portly Dyke: A Modest Proposal: The Thorny Issue of Sexual ConsentPortlyDykehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08598941981828041835noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-81594814330169570052010-07-12T08:20:32.533-07:002010-07-12T08:20:32.533-07:00This is a great post (sorry to have arrived to the...This is a great post (sorry to have arrived to the party so late - 2010!). @Matthew "I have to wonder what these guys are doing that women are rescinding consent mid coitus" - it might be that a partner discovers that the other hasn't been STD tested, or that contraception isn't being used, or that they are already in a relationship (in which the other partner thinks they are mutually monogamous), or someone realises they are late for an appointment, that someone has started to open the door, etc. There are thousands of reasons for wanting sexual contact to stop, including that 'these guys are just lousy in bed and the withdrawal of consent consists of a bored "Well, that's enough of that now."' I agree with the point you're making and the danger in presenting successful sex and sexual prowess as completed/continued sexual acts. If the idea that you are stopping an act due to a partner's lack of skill prevails, it might enrage the one asked to stop, or prevent the partner from making their desist wishes known for fear of retribution for the assumed 'diss'. Better would be to promote the idea that successful sex is any contact from which all participants receive joy - from a quick cuddle to a full-blown (pardon the expression) marathon of romping. Orgasm for either partner is a bonus not a requirement. This mentality would help people enjoy a healthier sex life on all counts. This would also allow room in the discourse of ‘pillow talk’ to express that one wishes an act to stop when things become uncomfortable emotionally or physically, or when some extraneous influence (door opening, phone ringing) happens. If we concentrate too much on ‘the sex stopped because it was not getting sufficiently arousing for a partner’ we close off discourse about how/when to stop sexual contact for other reasons. Silencing those voices leaves little room in the dialogue between ‘the sex stopped because it was bad’ and ‘the sex didn’t stop and was thus rape’. Consent and ‘grey rape’ conversations therefore become narrowed, creating polarised opinions where there would have been space for many voices.BioGalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17384242608761202134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-59979670563403230752008-12-11T06:26:00.000-08:002008-12-11T06:26:00.000-08:00Ronald Parker, you're a spammer, and your spam isn...Ronald Parker, you're a spammer, and your spam isn't even really relevant to the post. It's about sexual consent, NOT erectile dysfunction.<BR/><BR/>Selling Viagra without a prescription is illegal. Is the "Viagra" you sell fake or stolen?Matthew Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15231470957925550626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-76230851052011526702008-12-11T02:44:00.000-08:002008-12-11T02:44:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-66155738937878791232008-04-27T14:49:00.000-07:002008-04-27T14:49:00.000-07:00Same as gaudior. You rock! This was awesome, fun...Same as gaudior. You rock! This was awesome, funny, and a really good answer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-71333475420611050872008-04-24T10:00:00.000-07:002008-04-24T10:00:00.000-07:00This is SO AWESOME. I followed a link here from h...This is SO AWESOME. I followed a link here from http://vito-excalibur.livejournal.com, and this is honestly the best answer to that "argument" I've ever seen. Thank you! You rock!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-596037754632247952008-04-24T06:12:00.000-07:002008-04-24T06:12:00.000-07:00You just became one of my heroes.I have to wonder ...You just became one of my heroes.<BR/><BR/>I have to wonder what these guys are doing that women are rescinding consent mid coitus. Did the "consent" consist of getting them to nod while too drunk to speak? Did they use the flawed "Silence implies consent" claim?<BR/><BR/>I'd be nice if these guys are just lousy in bed and the withdrawal of consent consists of a bored "Well, that's enough of that now."Matthew Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15231470957925550626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-19517595639368316392007-10-21T09:52:00.000-07:002007-10-21T09:52:00.000-07:00So logical, yet so necessary. Thanks PortlyDyke.So logical, yet so necessary. Thanks PortlyDyke.NameChangedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11870859491797704469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-30096139525209140702007-10-19T12:46:00.000-07:002007-10-19T12:46:00.000-07:00I think I'm gonna post this in my residence hall. ...I think I'm gonna post this in my residence hall. Thanks!Gender Blankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03515845466106535797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-20708718600555503782007-10-18T20:03:00.000-07:002007-10-18T20:03:00.000-07:00Well said, Gurrrl!I happen to believe that if I'm ...Well said, Gurrrl!<BR/><BR/>I happen to believe that if I'm not hearing hours of "YES, YES, OH YEEESSSS" I'm not doing my job, and being a man of some personal pride and self-respect, I QUIT.<BR/><BR/>Another approach which works for me is this: I never have sex...<BR/><BR/><I>I make love.</I> There's a huge and unmistakable difference.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for this spot-on post, Woman!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-20226271852464671952007-10-18T18:09:00.000-07:002007-10-18T18:09:00.000-07:00WowWe should make a poster of this post and sell i...Wow<BR/>We should make a poster of this post and sell it in every college bookstore in America (and maybe the restrooms in the Minneapolis Airport)<BR/><BR/>Portly once again I am in awe<BR/><BR/>Great postStevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09113649615898017098noreply@blogger.com