tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post4012019898561960719..comments2023-04-28T07:38:34.667-07:00Comments on Teh Portly Dyke: How To Accept An ApologyPortlyDykehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08598941981828041835noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-2576121197500420462010-01-08T18:27:02.918-08:002010-01-08T18:27:02.918-08:00Portly! You must be psychically connected to me. ...Portly! You must be psychically connected to me. I was just sincerely apologized to yesterday. I am currently in a strange stage of acceptance. The apology came from a student who verbally assaulted me, and he is still in my class. I trust his sincerity, but I do not feel that he and I can continue to interact in a teacher/student way because there are legal proceedings beginning and I will be called to testify. I accept that he is remorseful, and he has changed his behavior, but I fear that if the he doesn't get a satisfactory grade from me, I may be at the wrath of his parents. <br /><br />/making it all about me.<br /><br />I've missed you. :) Thanks for a great post.NameChangedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11870859491797704469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-86201075096383980242010-01-08T10:31:44.344-08:002010-01-08T10:31:44.344-08:00Hey OD! I think everyone has the "right"...Hey OD! I think everyone has the "right" to take as long as they want to accept (or not accept) apologies.<br /><br />What I've found is that, if I don't feel comfortable with accepting the apology right away, it's usually because the feelings I'm having aren't just about the thing that's just happened with me and the other party -- there's more under the surface, and I heartily endorse taking the time to figure out what that is!<br /><br />Just as I don't think someone should apology unless they really feel they've done something to apologize for, I don't think they should accept an apology when they really don't accept it.PortlyDykehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08598941981828041835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795483213843043301.post-20372739229499841702010-01-08T04:33:56.291-08:002010-01-08T04:33:56.291-08:00Wow, I've missed you!
Sometimes, and maybe I ...Wow, I've missed you!<br /><br />Sometimes, and maybe I haven't examined all of the scenarios you have laid out, I feel like I am entitled -- once in a while -- to not immediately accept an apology. I feel like sometimes we are expected (especially as women) to get over things quickly if someone apologizes and not hold grudges. I want to be able to hurt just a little longer so that I can work through it for whatever reason, especially if I feel genuinely hurt. I don't always want to move on that quickly. It might say more about me...but most of the time, yes: If someone apologizes, I can see that these scenarios fit.OuyangDanhttp://randombabble.comnoreply@blogger.com